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Sibling Struggles: The Unfair Division of Care for Aging Parents

Caregiving - Conflict resolution - Emotional management - Sibling dynamics - Therapy

Are sisters doing all the work while brothers relax? Find out the unfair burden placed on some siblings!

Sibling dynamics can be challenging, especially when it comes to the responsibility of caring for aging parents. In a letter to Dear Abby, a reader expresses frustration that caring for their father has become a 'girl thing'. The sisters in the family are bearing the brunt of the caregiving duties, while their retired brothers seem to be refusing to contribute. This unequal distribution of care has created tension and resentment among the siblings, highlighting gender stereotypes and expectations.

In another letter to Dear Abby, a reader shares the struggles of being one of the younger children in a large family tasked with caring for a father with dementia. With one sister already deceased, the remaining siblings are left to navigate the challenges of providing care for their ailing father. The emotional and physical toll of caregiving falls heavily on a few siblings, raising important questions about family dynamics and support systems.

In a candid revelation to a therapist, a person opens up about their explosive reactions when dealing with their brother. Through therapy and anger-management sessions, the individual has learned to manage their emotions and communicate effectively. This personal growth journey highlights the importance of seeking professional help to address underlying issues and improve relationships.

The struggles depicted in these letters shed light on the complexities of familial relationships and the challenges of caregiving. It serves as a reminder of the importance of communication, support, and equal distribution of responsibilities within families.

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Dear Abby: It's not fair that this became a 'girl thing' (San mateo county times)

Dear Abby: We sisters do all the work, and our retired brothers refuse.

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Dear Abby: A few siblings bear brunt of caring for aging father (Huntington Herald Dispatch)

DEAR ABBY: I am one of the younger children of eight. One sister is deceased, which leaves seven of us to care for our father, who has had dementia since.

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Dear Therapist: I Explode When I'm Dealing With My Brother (The Atlantic)

Thanks to therapy and an anger-management group, I no longer react this way with other people, and I am able to communicate my feelings and resolve conflict ...

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